Windows of Personality

I was in my  final years in high school when I got introduced to this 4 windows of personality,  I attentively listen to the speaker as he explained each of the personality, Indeed, it became sort of  my “GUIDE” be modest and sensitive on my actions and others,

Here’s an illustration of what I am referring,

it is called JOHARI windows of personality, I know many of my readers already knew about this but for the benefits of those who are new, it is like discovering “YOU” what you know about yourself,  what other’s know about you, what other’s know about you that you don’t know and what you will discover about yourself...

 In a way, it helps me to analyze and observe one’s action and response in a certain situation, this is not also to say that I’m an expert but I used such tool to learneand discover more about myself and others..

There are few personalities by which I observed common to some “MODERN” people, it sometimes irritate me but most of the time I pitied them, 

 

1. The Wrong Achiever

These are the type of people who yearn to achieve certain status not to satisfy themselves but others, they worked hard to satisfy one's happiness,  it’s very hard to intervene with this kind of people simply because they do not know that they already trap in the situation but they continue to work without question just to please somebody...

Wisemummy shout! :  it’s a good attitude to help and achieve but  you should ask yourself, till when??  Is it worth it??

2. The Social Climber

Well, it’s literal!!...  these people likes anything expensive, luxury and anything that defines glamour regardless of their actual status in society, they work hard to earn that glamour status, they seek attention to cover their unwanted reality, they love fame, they love people to envy them, they live up to the high level society even if it takes a months of  eating only a tomato on their breakfast,lunch and dinner just to buy the latest gad… 

Wisemummy Shout!: I can only pray  for those who cannot see what really is the real happiness!! Richness does not define by expensive clothes nor latest gadgets.. it is by one’s satisfaction to life in long term basis….

3. The Stabbers

I have been friends with the stabbers before and I should say, it’s like a disease you’ll never know it’s already in you when you are with them, these people usually overjoyed by gossiping and judging other people, there whole life centered to what they hear and what they see, it can even lead to damage one's reputation and dignity… yet sometimes I noticed myself commenting bad things about others and I have no resistance when I am with them..

 

Wisemummy Shout!: yeah yeah…. Gossiping is addiction, you get to hear and speak about people either good or bad…! Betta stop it before you are the center of the gossip…!

4. The Over and wrong Confidence

Parents ..it’s ok to praise your kids but with honestly and love, I have met people who are oooooooooooozing with so much confidence,  I thought it is something he/she adapted from his collegues or friends but  as I knew them well and deep, I discover that, it comes from  their parents, PARENTS who praises their kids exaggeratedly,  that KIDS as they grew up they  install such kind of  wrong confidence in all aspect of their lives, they say, I’m very good with this and I’m basically an expert with that but they really don’t have that talent but they see themselves as great, and they don’t accept failures and wrong!!

Wisemummy Shout!: you love your kids right??! Then love them real, let them experience the reality of life, don’t feed them the wrong confidence for they will live alone in the world the evolves failures and acceptance

 

The thing is, we all have this blind side in our windows of personality, we don’t know but others clearly see it in us,  it sometimes hard to accept, we can always ignore what others is telling us or we can observe it quietly and slowly get into the process of change,

Change is the only constant in this world, I’m not in the right position to say that what I see in you is wrong, for we all have our sets of expectations and personalities, my point is,  if we truly love ourselves then get to know “YOU” than overlook what is over or missing in you,  to appreciate the real beauty and richness of life, it always start in YOU and how you prepare yourself and your family  in the future with the best and proper self-equipment you can install...