Miley Cyrus and My Daughter's Questions???

When my kids ask me about “Miley Cyrus” I always have that “freaking shock face” speechless answer!!! I really want to understand the nature of her business, she in the music industry and  she voluntarily chose to be different in a very “different way” to compete and step foot forward from the other artist. 

I like Miley  during her Hannah Montanna days, my little girl like her too but her decision to suddenly change her image comes as a shocker to me,

Me and my daughter searching for costume ideas on the net 

--Then a racy photo of Miley suddenly popped-up

 My 4 year daughter saw it and asked, mommy, is that sexy??   

 I looked at her and said, no baby, that is not sexy, you’re pretty and you don’t need to show your skin to be sexy,

Then she said, why does Hannah Montana wear something like that??? 

Then, I told her, because she doesn't want to be a good girl anymore…. 

She asked: does her mommy love her even if she’s bad??  
(This very last question  struck me most…..,) 

Maybe ???? ..... ;- (

"a very sad answer from me bcoz  if I will answer yes, surely, she will think that it's ok to be like that because mommy will always love her even if she's bad!! "

in my thoughts:

" I love my kids and loving them includes guiding them into the right path...."

Parenting: Bullying

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“Parents can only give good advice or put them on the right paths, but the final forming of a person's character lies in their own hands.” 
― Anne Frank

Since, I became a mother everything to me is a learning process, I really want to be a better mom, but it’s hard because what I have inside of me is a memory of a lonely child…..

I was a product of a broken family and I did not think of myself less than any other kids, yes!! People judged and kids bullied me for the things I have no control, it was a painful childhood and yet I have used every pain to build that confidence in me , 

I make it appoint that my kids grow up ready to face the world with confidence and respect for others, “great inventors are born normal just like anyone else but they professed themselves and learned to be great….”  Same as bullies, they’re not born bullies but people made them to be one!!!

One of many things we, parents are hard to resist is bullying, we always want our kids to be safe  but we cannot control things specially when our precious ones are already in school on their own,  so how do we prepare our kids as well as ourselves from such danger

Bullying:

During my school days, Bullying is not even a word to begin with, it is more of who’s popular and strong in school, 

The very worst I have encountered was one of my classmates was taking my food every recess but it doesn’t frustrate me at all, since I’m so tired of the same food everyday from breakfast to dinner and it shocked me because the bully kid is not even bothered he’s eating same food everyday during those days! Haha… 

I can’t even compare how safe we are before than today; the very worst is here in this generation.. Kids these days are very smart that sometimes I lose control of how they are able to turn the things upside down…..

What are the signs that your kid is being bullied or the bully one:

Bully victim effect checklist:

1.)    Unexplainable pain and injuries, headaches, stomachache

2.)   Faking illness

3.)   Lost or destroyed things like books, clothing, gadgets, anything

4.)   Loss of appetite and interest in school

5.)   Avoidance to people

6.)   Depress

7.)   Decrease in self-esteem

8.)  Sleepless and frequent nightmares

The bully checklist:

1.)     Friends with the naughty ones

2.)    Parents always received complain calls from school and other parents

3.)    Aggressive

4.)    Disrespectful

5.)    Always have new belonging and extra cash

6.)    Insensitive

How do we prepare our kids

1.)  Open communication

Always provide space and an open line for your kids to speak, be a friend, don’t judge and be a good listener to them, Let the kids feel that they have the parents who are willing to listen to them in whatever things they want to share

2.)  Socialization

Kids who are socially exposed have a lower risk of  being a victim,  enroll your kids in any interesting activities, let them mingle with other kids by providing them the confidence in socialization it is very easy for them to adjust nor be friends with anybody

3.)  Spanky Habit

It is ok to get angry with your kids because children by nature will test us into our limits (in a very applicable circumstances) giving them a little spank is the way to keep them in the proper phase, I do agree with giving the kids a little of that but don’t make it a habit to spank them whenever they are mistaken

Spank causes a small gap into our relationship with our kids and making it a habit will widen the gap and eventually, kids will no longer feel the pain they will become bully, uncontrollable and disrespectful kids

4.)   Power of hug and Love

We all love our kids, we really do.. Kids would always feel that they’re loved by literally doing it to them, it is where they feel they’re secure, well loved and comfortable

5.)  Spend Time

Make it a habit to spend time with your kids even in your busy day, remember, such little time would mean so much to them

We, parents can only hope for the safety of our kids and keep them forever but letting go and let them experience the world would able them to be strong and be prepared in the future,  spend time , shower them with love and comfort as it is their weapon against this cruel world

" You may give them your love but not your thoughts,"

For they have their own thoughts.

You may house their bodies but not their souls,

For thir souls dwell in the house of tomorrow, which you cannot visit, not even in your dreams.

You may strive to be like them, but seek not to make them like you.

For life goes not backward nor tarries with yesterday.

You are the bows from which your children as living arrows are sent forth.

The archer sees the make upon the path of the infinite, and He bends you with His might that His arrows may go swift and far.

Let your bending in the archer's hand be for gladness.

For even as He loves the arrow that flies, so He also loves the bow that is stable.”

 ― Kahlil Gibran

Super Fresh Sea Food @ the Sultan Center Shouk Sharq

We were at the Souk Sharq The Sultan Center last weekend to pick some stuff and noticed really good sea food items lined up in their wet market area,  I and my family are sea food lovers so imagine our feelings seeing the display… oh!! Heaven!!

Taking good photos with my phone

While waiting for hubby, I took some photos using my phone; I feel really pleased when I transfer the files in my tab and saw these amazing snaps without any alteration,

Truly it takes true talent to captured real photos with simple inexpensive gadgets….. (ahem!!! So I have talent in photography then!!)

Freaking roll on candy!!

I got home feeling so irritated seeing my son liking a bottle shape roll-on (deodorant), like a an action star  I ran and jumped just to get the bottle on my son’s mouth, he was crying at the loudest and only to found out that the very thing was actually a candy…..

My son looked at me as if I’m a mad mommy,  but whyyyyyyyyyy in the world someone thought of creating such item for kids????  Soooo grosss and I don’t like it at all!!...  pleaseee!!! 

Inspiration : when Bitter becomes Better

Been into blogging for many years now, it granted many opportunities for me as a person and a simple individual, I did not blog for fame nor money, I write because I wanted to learn and fulfill my dream and that is to write,

I grew up in a city where English is not the native language, it so often we used English in our day to day conversation, the word” English” is something I was born with an allergy, I’m too shy to talk nor converse using such language, I was naïve and yet, I love to hear people talking in English fluently as it greed me deep within…

Growing up was a struggle, I was not the smartest in the class but I always find my way to passed the exam (if you know what I mean)  I remember it so well, one night I can’t find someone to help me with my assignment so I asked my grandmother to help me, the assignment was  picture of things  and I have to write  its name  in English and this is exactly my answers:

 

The very next day after school, I told grandma, I don’t want to go to school anymore!! It traumatized me to see zero score on my assignment

And that’s where I started to dream and promised myself that I will learn ENGLISH in anyway possible

 So here I am writing my heart out!! I may not be a good writer but at least I've tried and gain your attention because you're here and reading this page

Thank you... 

chew it Right!!

photo from google search

I was talking with my office pal on chewing issue, actually, I and my office mate are not the typical office buddies that work in silence, we talked about anything and everything whether its nonsense or not surely our conversation would always end up in great conclusion

Now, going back to the topic…

Chewing is something we've learned from the time we had our taste of food, we might not notice it but chewing served as a process to enjoy our food, it can make us fat or thin…

Strange huh ???  Well, I never realized that as well till today…

Now let’s go down to basic, what is chewing?? Chewing is an act of biting or slicing of food in the mouth to make it easier to swallow,

EXACTLY!! 

It is very essential for people to eat everyday and every time we eat we chew the food, (yes!! I’m being stupid here!!)  The point is, it is part of our lives to survive the hunger game, the way we chew our food benefits to the structure of our body and the nutrients our body requires

I was raised by my grannies, we don’t have much in life so in every meal my ex-veteran grandpa had taught me “ to chew little to swallow more “ just like his training in the military, because with such process I can eat a lot and fast  without tasting the nasty food, so growing up I have adapted the habit of chewing less to eat more, I have mastered the fast eating habit without noticing my consumption giving me lots of extra fatty storage in my body , only then, I realized that such pattern is really taking me into road of FAT world and it is very hard to break the habit because it is my foundation, my lifestyle and the way I am, it may take me sometime to deal with the changes but I’m trying my best to let my kids understand the importance of it

Chewing is a part of our lifestyle, make it a habit to chew your food properly with minimal sound, it enables us to enjoy our food and be healthy… check your chewing habit and makes the difference…….

Face Mapping: What's causing your breakout!!

When we are not expert in acne-related issues, we often assumed or follow the advise from people with the same experience our fellow “acners” (hehehehe…love the word!!  )

over and over again we left perplexed by the outbreak of spots in different areas of the face. That sometimes we questioned ourselves, if Is it hormone-related? or Did I miss my five-a-day?

Today, I just read about this wonderful information which was a practice from long long time, The ancient art of face mapping can help you identify the cause of your blemishes by splitting the face into several sections such as forehead, chin and nose and understanding the different 'zones'. 

1 & 2: Digestive System — Eat less processed or junk food, reduce the amount of fat in your diet, step up water intake and opt for cooling things like cucumbers.

3: Liver — Cut out the alcohol, greasy food and dairy. This is the zone where food allergies also show up first, so take a look at your ingredients. Besides all this, do 30 minutes of light exercise every day and get adequate sleep so your liver can rest.

4 & 5: Kidneys — Anything around the eyes (including dark circles) point to dehydration. Drink up!

6: Heart — Check your blood pressure (mine was slightly high) and Vitamin B levels. Decrease the intake of spicy or pungent food, cut down on meat and get more fresh air. Besides this, look into ways to lower cholesterol, like replacing “bad fats” with “good fats” such as Omegas 3 and 6 found in nuts, avocados, fish and flax seed. Also, since this area is chock-full of dilated pores, check that your makeup is not past its expiry date or is skin-clogging.

7 & 8: Kidneys — Again, drink up! And cut down on aerated drinks, coffee and alcohol as these will cause further dehydration.

Zone 9 & 10: Respiratory system — Do you smoke? Have allergies? This is your problem area for both. If neither of these is the issue, don’t let your body overheat, eat more cooling foods, cut down on sugar and get more fresh air. Also keep the body more alkaline by avoiding foods that make the body acidic (meat, dairy, alcohol, caffeine, sugar) and adding more alkalizing foods like green veggies and wheatgrass juice. Another thing that most of forget – dirty cell phones and pillow cases are two of the top acne culprits and this area is what they affect the most!

Zone 11 & 12: Hormones — This is the signature zone for stress and hormonal changes. And while both are sometimes unavoidable, you can decrease their effect by getting adequate sleep, drinking enough water, eating leafy veggies and keeping skin scrupulously clean. Another interesting point: breakouts in this area indicate when you are ovulating (and on which side).

Zone 13: Stomach — Step up the fibre intake, reduce the toxin overload and drink herbal teas to help with digestion.

14: Illness — Zits here can be a sign that your body is fighting bacteria to avoid illness. Give it a break, take a yoga class, take a nap, take time to breathe deeply, drink plenty of water and know that everything always works out!

So the next time you break out or notice dark under-eye circles, look to your face map: your skin is probably trying to communicate on behalf of the internal organs. However, do remember that, as with all medical issues, it is always best to see your doctor or dermatologist for a proper prognosis. This is just a general guide to head you off in the right investigative direction – just because you break out between the brows doesn't always mean you have a bad liver!

Source : ulookhaute.com skinacea.com

Topic: Attitude!!!!!

I saw the above post in  facebook news feed  last night,  well, it’s kind funny when you read it literally but in contrary, I think the person who posted it, is somewhat have an attitude problem and not recognizing it,  

We all  have that sets of attitude that differs from each other,  it is where we stand and it is something we do without training, it shows naturally because that is who we are from the day we understand the wordattitude….

Have you ever stop for a moment and realize how people treat you??  Do you take time to adjust?? Or don’t care because it is who you are and you do not need to please anybody but yourself???   

What we know and what has been installed in us is what we believed is right, that’s is why, there are many broken marriages, gossip, bad relationship, damaged trust because in one way or another we take pride of what we believe in a wrong attitude,

Attitude plays a vital role in establishing rapport, relationship and friendship, we cannot blame our fate for not having friends that last or a strong relationship……..   It’s all about attitude towards life and others because attitude defines us not we define attitude!! 

photos from google image

Parents in Kuwait " be SMART enough!!!!!"

I can’t express how painful it is for a parent like myself who strive hard to give out the best for  my kids...

We were in the middle of admission for the new school year, my son already passed the entrance exam requirements for grade 2, we have completed all the necessary documents in a week and only to found out that the previous school was was not recognized by the ministry of education in Kuwait, we have no other choice but to swallow our pride and follow the ministry regulation even if it takes  to waste the thousand KD we have invested for the last school year..

I would like to warn fellow parents specially the Filipino communities to be aware of the school legalities, always do a background check regardless of the recommendations

One school located in salwa is operating till 10^th grade yet the ministry of education validated their license till KG2 only ,  Form 137 can be accepted in other Philippine school but other recognized schools in Kuwait who are following as per the ministry requires validation of the documents  and any forms from such school is not valid from grade 1 onwards.. so be very careful!!!!

Confused.....

There were times that I was want to write my feelings out , without direction nor a plan to create something out of a topic, writing from the heart if I were to describe it in one line..

Today, right after a busy morning at home, my kids are finally in school and  I gain the space and time to relax , staring at the blank page of word program in my laptop, over and over I think of something to write but something is really wrong , my mind is not giving me the exact word to start so I let my fingers run through the keypads and this is what I have to say…

 Should I be thankful or should I careless enough, Life is a bit tough and here I am wandered to what really installed for me, my family perhaps?? 

 I wanted life to be easy maybe I Imagine it to be easy…. do you have the time in your life where you just wanted to lay down and sleep the whole day???

 Do you sometimes create very greedy thoughts?  Greedy thoughts define easy life that would stake an easy climb into a ladder of our goals and dreams….  

Dreaming is free so use it and make sure you come back in the world of reality with your head up high without the floating sensation…

I have been to a lot of training and seminars, all of them says one thing….. 

“ get out there and be successful”, success is not an overnight plan nor  a simply wish of luck,  it’s a hard work and perseverance, we all want success and yet we fail to recognize the key to lead us into our goals, maybe we ignore the little details that matter or sadly we continue to do the same mistakes

I thank the Lord for the blessings, Trial are part of our lives to be better and to recognize the essence for being human…  I really don’t know where is this post taking me , I’m confused but somehow, expressing my thoughts and feeling through this medium is worth the time and space….

Have a great day everyone and whatever is in your mind right now a plan or something you really want to try... do it now!!! And make the best of everything…. 

Remember, opportunity strike once you have the option to grab it or regret it!!

 

Love lots,

Wisemummy81

Experience: Suite Home Novotel Hotel

This is somewhat a very late post and I don’t consider this as a review but just a plain post of the things we as family experienced during our stay in Suite home Novotel Hotel

To start with, I have booked our reservation thru booking.com as I’m so convinced with the “SMART DEAL price” ( KD23/- per night with Breakfast)

As the day comes, we entered into the lobby to confirm our reservation and the person in the reception was so nice that he upgraded our standard rooms to suite due to the Ramadan promo with no extra charges, I was indeed thankful…

The suite room was clean and well arranged, my kids glances into every corner of the room and explore, the bed was super comfy that I have to jump twice and take a looong sigh as I rest my tired body into the comfort of the bed, bathroom is good and the water is just overflowing and warm

Moving forward….

As we venture into the lower floor where spa, sauna, mini gym and swimming pool are located well, quite small and basic but overall it’s a good place to relax in the middle of the city, my kids love their swimming pool as at that time, there are no other users than us, so we have the whole place to splash and do whatever we want… though, sauna and steam areas were not functional (maybe temporarily or at such time) but still I appreciate the effort of keeping the hotel well equipped

Overall, it was a nice place for a family to relax that cares for your budget…  we have a great time spent @ suite home novotel

And just want to say Thanks to the staff for giving us good service!!!